excitement: your mind’s best tool to combat stress and anxiety

some people will do anything for a dose of excitement. 

ask a skydiver why she’s jumping out of an airplane and you’re not likely to get a purely rational explanation. high-profile Wall Street financiers know they make more money than they can spend, but that’s not what keeps them going.

any astronaut will tell you that there is a wealth of scientific value in strapping yourself to 5 million pounds of exploding rocket fuel – but that’s not what motivates a lifelong fascination with space exploration.

the foundation upon which these achievements rest is a powerful sense of excitement. people who lose that sense of excitement about what they are doing end up stopping short of their potential.

people who know how to manage, sustain, and cultivate excitement for what they do are able to achieve the things that make life meaningful. discovering what excites you on a personal level is key to making good career choices, cultivating deep interpersonal relationships, and overcoming obstacles towards personal self-fulfillment.

read on and you’ll find out what excitement really is, how it really works, and what you can do today to start consciously cultivating it.

what is excitement and how does it affect people?

it might surprise you to find out that excitement and anxiety are actually the same thing. 

if you break them both down into their constituent parts, you’ll see that both excitement and anxiety share the same characteristics. whether you are excited or anxious about something, the body’s physical response is the same:

  • your heart rate rises,
  • you breathe more rapidly,
  • you may start sweating,
  • you have trouble concentrating.
  • you feel restless, nervous, and tense.

these are also identical with the stress response – a well-studied medical phenomenon associated with the release of epinephrine in the bloodstream. this response is an automatic bodily function. it is a fundamental part of being human, hardwired into our brains.

you can’t always stop stressful things from happening in life and you can’t stop yourself from feeling the effects of stress. the one thing you can change is how you respond to it when it happens.

the main difference between excitement, stress, and anxiety is how we perceive and define these physical and psychological effects. excitement is a positive state of mind, stress is a neutral one, and anxiety is a negative one.

the Stoic philosopher and Roman emperor Marcus Aurelius (author of Meditations) understood this truth almost two thousand years ago. although you can’t stop stressful things from happening, you are in total control of the way you perceive those things, and the actions you take in response.

understanding the spectrum: excitement, stress, and anxiety

at first, it might seem like stress shouldn’t be a neutral response. most people see stress as an inherently bad thing. it isn’t. stress can be good or bad depending on the context and its interpretation.

let’s develop that idea with an example.

imagine you are a student, cramming the night before a major exam. the knowledge that the exam’s results will have far-reaching consequences is not something that you can simply ignore. your amygdala and hypothalamus are already in overdrive – your leg starts jumping up and down like a sewing machine the moment you sit down to start studying.

you choose – consciously or subconsciously – to respond in one of three broad ways:

  1. to fear the possibility of performing poorly on the exam. this fear causes you to fixate on the potential of a negative outcome, creating an uncomfortable sense of anxiety. this anxiety then feeds on your fear, creating a feedback loop. you study in order to avoid the pain of a bad outcome.
  2. to distance yourself from the results of the exam. instead of giving into fear, you impartially weigh your potential for failure versus your potential for success and choose to study only because it is preferable to not-studying.
  3. to enthusiastically dive into the challenge that the exam represents. instead of fearing bad results or dispassionately detaching yourself from results, you actively engage with uncertainty, and use it to propel yourself forward. it’s an optimistic perspective that accepts – and even embraces – the risk of failure.

it should be immediately obvious that the fear-and-anxiety response is a poor choice. it exaggerates the negative potential of unfamiliar situations. at best, it leads to a complacent life where risks are not taken. at worst, it leads to a neurotic life defined by disappointment and regret. despite this, it is a path that many people choose, because disappointment is a powerful hedge against uncertainty.

the second option is better, but only to a limited degree. it provides some protection against disappointment, but only through a defense mechanism that reduces the ultimate joy that success may otherwise offer. interestingly, this is what Marcus Aurelius recommends we choose, but that doesn’t mean it is automatically correct.

the third option represents the greatest real risk of disappointment, but also offers the greatest potential benefits. you might very well fail at what you endeavor to do, but if you live in a state of authentic excitement about your goals, those failures won’t be the painful, show-stopping obstacles they would otherwise be.

but choosing to jump into things with authentic excitement is more than a hedge against the potential disappointment of failure. 

in fact, it has been shown to actually improve performance in its own right.

excitement naturally improves outcomes

it should be evident that approaching challenges from a place of excitement helps to reduce the pain of potential failure. but what people ultimately want is to succeed at the things they propose to do – which excitement also helps with.

Harvard University researchers have published several studies on the effects of excitement on performance anxiety. the team used a well-known psychological priming technique to determine whether excited people outperform calm ones when performing anxiety-causing tasks.

to be specific, they had people deliver speeches, complete difficult math problems, and sing karaoke in front of large audiences. the researchers told the participants that their performance would be recorded and judged by a committee. they also hooked them into equipment measuring their heart rate while performing the activities.

the group of people primed for excitement before these activities were, on average, more competent and more relaxed than the control group, who were either primed for calmness, anxiety, anger, or sadness, or not primed at all.

the biggest difference was in the karaoke scores, where being primed for excitement resulted in an average 80 percent score, compared to 53 percent for the group primed for anxiety. 

this isn’t because those people were better singers. they might not even have been genuinely excited about singing karaoke songs in front of everyone – the only thing they did differently was telling themselves that they were excited right before doing it.

these studies demonstrate an important fact. you can consciously influence your subconscious state simply by telling yourself to feel a certain way. 

excitement is mental, but it affects your entire body. it might feel like you’re lying to yourself – and maybe you are – but the act of doing so nudges you in the right direction, instead of pushing you deeper into the realm of stress and anxiety.

how to lead an exciting life

the problem with excitement is that it’s temporary. you might be able to use psychological priming to pump yourself up before a major challenge, but the feeling won’t last.

retail experts say that the feeling of excitement impulse shoppers feel usually fades within about twenty minutes. if you want to lead an exciting life, you need to be able to consistently leverage your emotional state towards excitement.

but how can you apply routine and consistency to something that is, by its nature, the opposite of routine?

as with many of life’s many success hacks, the secret lies in changing your perspective.

the single most important factor contributing to the regular experience of excitement is progress. people who deepen their relationships, advance their careers, or improve their creative output feel more excited more often than people who don’t.

you might say that it’s the other way around – that people who are excited about things tend to dedicate themselves towards progress in those areas. and you’d be right. but we already know that you can improve your performance by psychologically priming yourself with an excitement-oriented perspective.

looking at challenges as opportunities worth getting excited about leads to achieving progress that actually delivers on the promise of excitement.

start small and keep building

for excitement to become a regular part of your way of life, you must reinforce it consistently. this means setting small, manageable goals and achieving them.

since we know that excitement doesn’t last long, it doesn’t make sense to prime yourself for excitement towards large, far-off goals. earning a coveted award or getting promoted at work are excellent, legitimately exciting goals – but they don’t happen every day.

instead, look to the small things you can achieve every single day. these are the building blocks of an excitement-oriented way of life and the success that comes along with it.

if you focus on personal and professional progress and give yourself small, manageable goals to meet on a daily or weekly basis, you will be able to leverage the excitement of winning towards achieving both your modest short-term goals and your major long-term ones.

plan your day around the achievements you can realize in 24 hours and set yourself towards them. focus on the things you can actually do (rather than the external validation you expect to get from doing them) and you will position yourself for success in everything you attempt.


image credit